The teen brain processes grief very differently from adults and young children.
What’s Happening in your Brain?
How Your Experience Differs
Understanding Loss: Since you’re still growing into abstract thinking, it can be tough to fully grasp complex things like death and what it means for your future.
Finding Yourself: This is a time when you’re figuring out who you are. Grief can make this process even more confusing and impact how you see yourself.​​
Your Brain is Still Growing
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Developing Decisions: Your prefrontal cortex, the part of your brain that helps with decision-making and managing emotions, is still developing. This can make it harder to handle intense feelings like grief.
Feeling More: Hormonal changes and brain development mean you might feel emotions more strongly than adults do.
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Decision Making: Your prefrontal cortex, which is responsible for planning and decision-making, is still maturing. Grief may make it harder to make thoughtful decisions or control impulses.
Common Reactions to Grief
What You Might Feel
Mood Swings: It’s normal to have strong and sudden mood changes. This can be confusing, but it’s a common part of grieving.
Seeking or Avoiding Support: You might find comfort with friends or online communities, or you might prefer to keep to yourself. Both are okay, but it’s important to reach out if you need help.
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How You May Act
Withdrawing from friends and activities: You may feel like isolating yourself or losing interest in things you used to enjoy.
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Changes in sleep or eating patterns: Some teens sleep too much, while others struggle with insomnia. Similarly, you might lose your appetite or turn to food for comfort.
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Acting out or engaging in risky behaviors: Some teens cope by rebelling, using substances, or pushing boundaries. This is often an attempt to distract from the pain of grief or regain a sense of control.
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Important Reminder: Everyone Grieves Differently
You might experience all of these emotions, some of them, or even others not listed here. Grief is a personal journey, and there’s no right or wrong way to feel. If these emotions feel too heavy or overwhelming, know that seeking help from a professional is a healthy and courageous step.